Now that the Life Outdoors – Fall Challenge has been going on for a couple of weeks, I’ve noticed another set of expectations that I have for outdoor play that makes it seem like more work than just staying in.
I have no problem reading a book or writing a blog post while Gordie is happily playing by himself inside. But to take a book outside just seems so… deliberate. Like I am planning on ignoring my child.
It doesn’t really make sense does it? Just because I bring a book out, doesn’t mean I have to read it. And if it’s there, and Gordie is happily playing by himself, I’m going to have a much better time out there reading my book instead of tapping my foot until we go back in.
If the point is for Gordie to get outside, it doesn’t really matter what I’m doing does it? It’s about him, not me.
I think that being able to play independently is a really good skill for kids to have – both inside and outside. It’s not that I’m never going to play with him. I do and I will continue to do so all time. But letting him or even encouraging him to play by himself isn’t an inferior form of play.
So, this week I’m going to try to worry less about whether I’m being a good enough mom outside and just feel good that we are outside.
My kids are awesome at independent play…just sayin 😉
@FamilyFoodFitnessandFunhaha that’s awesome.
Maddy’s not exactly known for her independent play, and I find that she does much better outdoors, so I often bring a book! At first I felt guilty, but now I realize that I interact with her plenty, plus she demands attention when she wants it.
Also, I think it’s good for them to discover their surroundings a bit without us always pushing them towards one thing or another. I love seeing what piques Maddy’s imagination and interest.
Independent play is crucial and it is good for kids to know that Mom is near but doesn’t need to be hovering over them all the time.
However, I don’t think this Life Outside challenge is just about taking the kids outside is it? I mean, the parents need to get outside just as much as the kids. So if Geordie were sick one day and couldn’t go outside would you think about taking yourself outside? If only for a walk around the block (obviously your husband would have to be home) or to sit on the front stoop (if you have one) and drink your tea so that you can get some fresh air. Think about it.
@melanie You make a good point. I don’t think right now I’m willing to make a formal commitment to do that but it’s definitely something I’ll keep in mind.